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My Ex: The Narcissist Checklist

If you are involved with a person that has these traits listed, RUN! I beg you! RUN!

Besides this list below, my ex also carried a picture of himself in his wallet, and constantly had his face in the mirror. He was and probably still in love with himself.  He was heavy into porn, and loved to cause trouble at work between his coworkers. They hadn’t  a clue he was the one setting them up.

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Expected Response – None

Butthead never responded to the Diocese. He ignored every letter. I’m fine with that.  The annulment will take longer,but  it will happen eventually. They realized he was playing games. At least his poor mum talked with them.  She did not have to do that. I feel so sorry for her. She is married to a narcissist, and her son is a narcissist. She doesn’t want to acknowledge it and continues to this day taking abuse from her husband and thinking her son is the golden boy.

I still shudder when I think of what he did to his own Mother’s chickens. He hung all of her hens from the clothesline and slit their throats when she was gone one day. ~SMH~ He was a little kid at that time.

Her son isn’t any different. I found out after the divorce he was killing our farm animals constantly out of joy and fury. What a sick son of a bitch.

It amazes me where I find narcissists. I am surrounded by them. They are where I work, at church, everywhere! The ones that talk non-stop about themselves drive me crazy. On and on and on they go. When they will stop, nobody knows. I watched one person get up and leave after this one narcissist would not shut up.

My Dave, the poor man. He forgot he was given an annulment by the church to his evil ex-wife.  He still doesn’t remember it even though we have the letter. I have to face it; he has Alzheimers. I pray I’m wrong. He can’t remember anything majorly significant.  I love this man, and I will lose him.  I can only hope the Alzheimer’s is slow. We have crappy doctors here. This stuff is as bad as cancer. It eats away your brain. Maybe there are some trial treatments out there?

Hello! Longtime No Me!

Yep, it has been a while. I’ve been so busy dealing with everyday life. Plus my fish, RCIA, and work.  No, the annulments have not yet gone through, Well I take that back. One has.  My husband’s last sociopathic ex-wife. The one who has been remarried over, and over, and over since their divorce. Oh yes, and she ended up in prison for being a prostitute in Kenai & Nikiski posing as a masseuse lol. That annulment went through lickety split.

The other ex-wife of his, as it turns out,  was never Catholic. Anyhow, he and I are still waiting on our annulments. I may end up still attending RCIA through next year if they don’t happen soon. Mind you, I enjoy learning, and Catholicism is fascinating; however, I want to go deeper than what RCIA is teaching. I haven’t a lot of time as it is to delve deeper on my own. I am attending a Bible class once a week too. We are studying the book of Acts, and it is exciting. Those Apostles are amazing. All but John end up dying, and they died for their beliefs. Paul got stoned twice so far. How he survived that is beyond me!

I got a new fish. A wee little neon goby. Bless its heart. It had ich. It was so sick. It’s still in quarantine for two more weeks.  It has perked way up, and so far no ich since I did the container switch method. Hopefully, it doesn’t break out again. It’s a cutie. I’ve been feeding it live brine shrimp. Tonight she surprised me. I dropped in some flakes for the two tiny hermit crabs I have in her tank  to keep her company.  She was on those flakes scarfing away. First time ever!  She is swimming every where too, and she is no longer in hiding. Yay!

I have my second 20 gallon set up. I have the tank to turn into a sump for it too, but just haven’t had the energy nor the time.  The protein skimmer is in to add to it.  I just have to do it. Maybe this weekend. We will see.I’m exhausted. I have to go to the grocery store tomorrow. Dave won’t go by himself now, that is if he can help it.He gets confused so easily. I looked at him hard the other day. He has lost so much weight. He looks so frail. It made me realize that I won’t have that awesome man in my life forever. I love him so much. In fact, more and more every day. I can’t imagine my life without him. So I’m trying to fatten him up. He needs to gain some weight. That last knee surgery really wore him down.

Someone stole my crayons today.~Grrr~ A young woman had a disabled person with her and asked if she could borrow them to keep her entertained, while she was  there to be advised or something. (I work for a university) So stupid me, I said yes, and she promised to return them. Ha! I kept  crayons to entertain the wee ones while the parents come for academic advising. The big plastic animals for toddlers to play with that I had there walked off too. ~sigh~ I know who took those. That woman thinks everything belongs to her, and there is no reasoning with her. Tomorrow I’ll go to Value Village and see if I can’t get some things  for the children and a bag to put them in.I’ll definitely put my name on everything this time.

I did have fun decorating a vase today in hopes that when the  little sign is read on it, people will make donations to the Goodie Fund. They love eating the goodies, so hopefully a few more will see the fancy donation jar and pitch in.Mind you I love making students happy, but being an admin  for a university, I’m not paid a lot.  I do what I can though.  I like seeing the students smiling, and staff & faculty too.

It’s 7:18 pm, and I’m off to bed. It’s been a hard week.

Sweet dreams. kj

 

 

 

Catholic Annulment Judgemental

So, I did over 20 pages of testimony for my annulment to include why I stayed as long as I did.. Then the administrator had the nerve to ask me why I remained in the marriage so long.  I was flabbergasted and shocked.  Never ever ask an abused person a question like that, and if you are obviously going to be working with abused people, get some training.  Just think if that person worked on Crisis Hotline.  People on the other line would be slitting their wrists.  She did a head trip on me.

So now I’m wondering if I will even get the annulment. She is pissed. Did not respond nor apologize to me via email.  She must have lived a very sheltered life.

Folks if you want to know why people remain in abusive relationships, here is a good link:

Why do People Stay in Abusive Relationships?

http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/why-do-people-stay/

 

My Sweet Sally

I hope I can get back into my writing again.  My life had been crazy  for a couple of years, and I was doing classes too.

Now I’m in RCIA and love it. I can’t get enough. There is so much to learn and I will never be able to learn everything before I die. 😦  I love our little church.  It’s a sweet place and 90% of the people are good and kind. Yes, there are a few snobs, but that is their problem.

I got to feed my Sally Lightfoot this evening by hand or rather chop stick haha.  She is a doll.  Actually she is a marine crab.  It has taken me a couple of months to get her to this point. She is a timid thing and cute as can be. I love all animals. I find marine life fascinating.

 

My Sweet Sally

I’m so Fracking Frustrated!

Yes, I’m frustrated.  To no end!  Why is it so hard for doctors to treat hypothyroidism?  Why do  they drag their feet in treating it? I was at least able to treat my edema that accompanies it, until Ma Huang was banned.  Now my non-pitting edema is out of control.  Mind you, regular water pills do not work.  This past month I have ordered around $200 worth of supplements in hope that one will straighten out my thyroid.  Today I ordered Horse chestnut extract and crossing my fingers that it will help me dump this fluid.  My legs are horrendous.  I’m pretty sure this excess fluid is causing my back issue.  ~Aargh~  Monday, I have a doctor appointment.  He’d better come up with something.  One, he needs to increase my armour, and secondly do something about this fluid.  It makes my legs and ankles itch and they hurt to the touch.

My husband’s dementia is stressing me as well.

Other than that, my life is good.  I love my job most of the time, except for next week.  It’s going to be stressful.  I have so much to do with my regular work plus a lot more extra than normal. I have to run off campus several times and spend hours at one place recruiting students.  Normally I don’t mind, but sitting at a table for hours when my back is messed up well all I can say is grrrr.  At least I have three gorgeous dogs, an ornery tort, and some hermit crabs to come home to.  Two of my crabs are going on ten years!  I love my crabs.  They each have their own individual personality.

Spring is here.  The snow is slowly melting and looking quite dirty.   Kallie, my tort wants outside, and the dogs are spending a lot more of their time out there too.  I wanted to get a bird feeder and a suet holder for our home here, but changed my mind.  I knew it would freak my hubby out.  He would fixate on it and obsess turning it into a problem and we would get to hear him angst over it.Not worth it.  I love birds, but I prefer my peace more.

Well I’m feeling better now that I’ve vented.  If anyone knows of an herb similar to ma huang please let me know.  I need it for this edema.  Thanks.

Long night or long morning?

One of my fur babies woke me to gagging and vomiting blood around I don’t know what time anymore. By the time we got back from the emergency vet it was around 4:00 am. Anyhow, looks like she cut her throat on something. The vet and her assistant were amazing. They let us be with her at all times. As a result, no issues sedating Star to do a scoping. They were calm and considerate with Star the entire time. I wonder if she takes regular patients. I muist check and see.